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Proposal Planning Tips | Marry Me

by Faith

Happy Monday! The Holiday season has officially begun and so has engagement season! We’re excited to work with our newly engaged couples! Proposing to someone you love is one of the most special and life-changing moments in your lives.  For those of you who are planning to or helping a loved one to pop the question, here are a few tips to consider:

 

  • Ask questions and be attentive to know what type of ring or proposal your partner may like.
  • Remember to talk about getting married beforehand. Make sure marriage is something you both want and that you have an understanding on major topics (i.e. children) before popping the question.
  • Keep it a Surprise! Even if she knows you’re planning to propose, she doesn’t have to know when you will.
  • Many parents (and loved ones) want to share in the excitement so be sure to share your intentions of marriage.
  • Find out from family and best friends what kind of ring your soon-to-be fiancée likes.
  • Know your diamond! The Four C’s when selecting a diamond – Cut (finish and polish of the stone), Color (grade system for each color), Clarity (few or no blemishes, and Carat (size).
  • Be sure to have the ring purchased and sized at least 2 weeks before the proposal. Don’t show up empty handed.
  • When choosing a proposal idea, it should be about your fiancée. Think about what her perfect proposal would be.
  • Have a plan! Ideally you would want at least a month before your engagement date to set everything in motion.

Continental Diamond

  • To relive stress in the planning process, hire a Proposal Planner.  Many Twin Cities wedding planners specialize in proposal planning and offer custom services.
  • Keep the date a secret if you’re worried someone is bound to spoil the surprise.
  • Choose a location that’s important for the both of you. Where you first met, had your first kiss, or first place you said “I love you” are romantic and special spots to pop the question.
  • Stumped on how to make your proposal personal? Consider what you enjoy doing together, a favorite movie, how you met, or adventures you’ve been on (and new ones you want to experience).
  • Have the proposal speak to her Love Language (Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and/or Physical Touch)
  • Public proposals can be clever and romantic when done right. If your soon-to-be fiancée is reserved or shy a public isn’t the way to go.
  • Clichés to avoid? A Jumbotron proposal or fishing for a ring out of a dessert or champagne glass.
  • When creating your proposal speech, speak from the heart (short is always sweet), tell her why you want to marry her, be YOU, and make sure to memorize it.
  • Hire a photographer that specialize in surprise marriage proposals. You’ll capture a moment you can cherish forever. (It is also a perfect way to share with loved ones who couldn’t be there.)

 

Let’s not forget, simply uttering the words “I love you” and getting down on one knee never fails.

Planning Tips |First Steps Towards Forever

by Faith
It’s the Holiday Season, a time of cheer and merriment that brings along with it engagement season! Congratulations to you two!  Remember to take a deep breath in between the screams, laughter, and tears of joy.  Your moment to proclaim your undying love for one another, to the world, has arrived.
What now?  What are the next steps in wedding planning?  Of course you’ve let your family and friends know, updated your Facebook status or posted THE ring on Instagram.  But after all that, what’s the game plan?  You are embarking on a journey of spending your lives together and planning your rite of passage: your Wedding Day.
1.    Bask: Over the next few weeks enjoy the newness of your engagement.  Plan a night where nothing wedding related is discussed.  Sit down, relax, and enjoy each other’s presence.
2.    Baby steps: Try not to think of all the planning at once.  Planning can be stressful, time consuming and at times tedious.  However, if you take it in strides you will be surprised at how simple, and relaxing, the process can be – take it slow.  Your wedding day is a celebration of your love; don’t get wrapped up in the planning and lose sight of this.
3.    Align your futures, together: Lay out your expectations and dreams with one another; make sure you’re both on the same page.  Be sure to also discuss these plans with those who will be hosting the wedding.
4.    Budgeting: Take this time to set an initial budget, which can always be altered.  How many guests are you able to accommodate comfortably?  Knowing your guest size will set proper limitations on your budget.  The easiest way to cut costs is by narrowing your guest list.  Your budget is the determining factor of the size, and formality of your wedding.
5.    Secure location: Before announcing the date and venues find out if your officiant and church (or ceremony site) are available on the date and time you desire.  Once this is confirmed you can lock in your reception venue date.
*For those of you who are getting married within one year, I would advise that you start booking your creative team now. Many wedding professionals such as Wedding Planners, Photographers, Cinematographers) and venues can only accommodate one wedding on a particular given day.  Many of who are booked a year or more in advance.  Understanding this increases the likelihood of you getting the team you love on your special day.

Building A Support System is a MUST:
·      Counsel: Family and friends who have been recently married or who have years of nuptial bliss can offer great advice.  Marriage comes with ups and downs; premarital counseling can put you off into the right start.
·      Professional: Consider hiring a Wedding Planner or a Month of Coordinator.  Wedding Planners can be invaluable in putting together your ideal day; save you money, as well as offer unbiased opinions on details.
·      Resources: Sign up to wedding websites such as The Knot, Munaluchi Bridal, or Wedding Bee to chat on local forums with other engaged couples. There are many wedding blogs online such as Snippet & Ink, Elizabeth Anne Designs, The Bride’s Cafe, and Style Me Pretty that offer advice and inspiration.
·      Be sure to create a wedding binder of inspirational pieces from online sites, wedding magazines (such as Minnesota Bride, The Knot Minnesota, Minneapolis Saint Paul Weddings) and any information gained from Bridal Fairs, Bridal Trunk Shows along with checklists, contacts, and timelines.  Organization skills are very important in the planning process.
This stage of your life is a big deal – it involves several changes so slow down and embrace it.
Enjoy. Happy Planning!

Pattern Board for Design + Styling

by Faith

Ever wondered about the name of the pattern you are using for your overall wedding design or paper goods?  At some point in time, we all have been “lost for words” when naming a pattern.  Yesterday, the Sweets Stylist Amy Atlas of Amy Atlas Events introduced the world to her Pattern Board for Design + Styling, a go-to tool for identifying patterns.  This creative glossary includes tips for color, scale, and pattern recommendation for various event moods.

via Amy Atlas Events

This is such a fabulous resource that we can’t wait to use!  We look froward to welcoming Amy’s floral board to our style plan in the near future.  In the meantime visit her site, her blog, and walk with her on twitter.

Wedding Stationery |How Suite It Is Part II

by Faith

I have discussed the components that make up the traditional wedding invitation, but today I wanted to go into detail of the additional wedding suite items. The additional pieces should match the design style as used for the invitations.

Programs
Programs are guides disturbed to guests at the ceremony. It includes the names of the bridal party, order of ceremony, along with day of details such as the ceremony location, date and time. It may also include hymn numbers, words of prayers, tributes to special people in your lives or cues for guests’ actions during the ceremony. Programs usually take the form if a folded card, sheet or fan.

Pew Cards
(Also known as Within the Ribbon Card) The front pews in a church or rows of seats on either side of the aisle are reserved for immediate family and close friends. Those who seat there receive a Pew card. Pew cards can be sent with the invitation or separately after the response card has been received. The guest brings it to the ceremony and present it to an usher, who will then seat the guests accordingly. Pew cards are useful for large weddings.

Escort Cards
Escort cards direct guests to their assigned tables during the reception. Escort cards are normally displayed on a decorative table at the entrance of the room. They can come in various forms, such as folded tents, tags or small envelopes. Guests names are written on the small envelope and the table number is written on the enclosed card.

Photog: Kurstin Roe Photography Stationery: The Dandelion Patch

Table Cards
(Also known as Table Numbers) Table cards are used to number tables at the reception. Tables cards are to coordinate with the escort and place cards.

Place Cards
Place cards are addressed with the guests’ names and are placed in front of a designated table setting, identifying the guest’s specific seating arrangement. Place cards are also helpful in notifying the servers of the meal choices your guests have made. Place cards should match your menu cards.

Menu Cards
Menu cards informs guests of the meal choices to be served during the reception. The Menu card is placed on each table. One Menu card is suggested per table, however one for each person seated at the table is recommended.

Laura Ivanova Photography 

Thank You Notes
Traditional Thank You cards have the words “Thank You” on the front flap and are blank inside. Couples now personalize the card with their married names, a monogram, or a motif. Thank You cards can match your wedding invitations or your personality. You will want to write a Thank You note for each gift given at each event: engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, and of course the wedding.

Wedding Announcements
Wedding Announcements merely announces the wedding. Wedding Announcements are sent after the wedding to friends, acquaintances, and business colleagues who weren’t invited to the wedding due to budget or distance limitations. The recipient of the announcement is not required to send a gift. The Wedding Announcement tends to duplicate the wedding invitation in almost every aspect except wording.

At Home Cards
At Home cards informs guests of the couple’s new address. At Home cards includes the couple’s name, new address, and the date they will begin residing there. At Home Cards can be sent with the invitations, announcements or on their own.

Name Cards

Name cards notifies guests of the bride’s new name. It tells family and friends whether the bride will keep her maiden name, take on her husband’s name or have a hyphenated surname.

Wedding Stationery |How Suite It Is Part I

by Faith

I heart great stationery. Depending on how formal or causal your day may be your wedding stationery sets the tone for your wedding. An invitation makes a statement and introduces your guests into your planning process. There are many parts to a wedding suite, and I wanted to discuss the general pieces:

Save the Date
Save the Date is a notice that states the wedding date for guests to mark on their calendars. It allows out of town guests to plan ahead for flight arrangements and time-off during peak vacation seasons. Ideal time to send a Save the Date is five months to a year in advance of your wedding date. Save the Dates can be a card, magnet, video, or any other creative outlet that you choose.
Wedding Invitation
This is the feature piece of the wedding stationery. It is the largest piece that contains details of the wedding ceremony. For an informal wedding or when the reception is held in the same venue the statement “Reception to follow” is placed on the invitation rather than placed on a separate card.
Reception Card
The Reception card informs the guests the time and place of the reception. A Reception card is typically included if the reception location is a different venue than the ceremony; for a formal wedding this is generally a must. Some couples may choose to have a private ceremony and large reception or vice versa, a reception card is then needed.
Response (RSVP) card & Envelope
The Response card is mailed along with the Wedding Invitation to receive the most accurate account of guests for the reception. Invitees are to send the card back whether or not they are able to attend your wedding day. Response cards can be classic fold, panel cards, or double side postcards. The Response card is accompanied with an addressed, pre-stamped envelope. Response deadline dates: I personally believe the deadline should be no later than two to three weeks from the date your caterer requires the final count. This leaves ample amount of time to connect with guests who have yet to respond, so you aware of your exact guest count.
Photog: Melissa Jill Photography Stationery: MJ Paperie

 

Accommodation Card
The Accommodation card is geared towards your out of town guest and is especially helpful for Destination Weddings. The Accommodation card includes detailed travel information such as hotel options, near by airports, rental car agencies, and area attractions. The Accommodation card can also include the wedding website.
Map/Direction Card
The Map/Direction card ensures no one gets lost, or arrives late on your wedding day. This card is printed in the same style as the invites. Have a clear map with clearly written street names printed on the card. Make sure to provide simple directions for guests coming from various directions. Optional: Add parking information if free parking is not easily accessible.
Inner Envelope
Inner envelope holds the Wedding Invitation & cards; at times the pocket fold is inserted into the inner envelope. A colored liner inside the Inner envelope is a great way to bring your wedding color into your Wedding Invitations.
Outer Envelope
The Outer envelope is formally addressed to the guest and holds the inner envelope and it’s enclosures. Outer envelopes can be ordered with returned addressed printed on the flap of the envelope. To add a personal touch, consider hiring a calligrapher to address your envelopes. 

Hi! I'm Faith

I am a wedding planner in the Twin Cities, a color enthusiast, and the editor behind this blog. I do hope my insights help you in creating an unforgettable wedding weekend. Thanks for stopping by!

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